The Bad Day, Bounce Back

We all experience them...

Bad days, that turn into weeks, and quickly revolutionize into months. 

Whether you experienced a hardship this week or have been struggling with day-to-day life and its problems... We all have days where we find ourselves down and sometimes, we are down hard. Apart of my transparency with my blog is acknowledging that we all have those feelings, those days where nothing is going right; the kids aren't listening, the vacuum broke, you have no gas and desperately need to wash your hair... I think it is important that we acknowledge that we all have them, each and every one of us, have those bad days. Those bad weeks. Those months where absolutely nothing is going our way.

Regardless of what life threw at your, the most imperative part of those bad, bad days, is how you treat the next one.

Resilience.

Something we all aim to teach our children, resilience is something that I have worked tiredly on and as a part of my self-improvement revolution, and I think it's important that I share all that I have been learning.

Like AA or so we've been told by the media, the firsts step of basically everything, is acknowledging, right?

Acknowledge that you've had a bad day. A shitty one, even and guess what, they're totally normal! Everyone has bad days, even if the person is someone who presents in the public eye, everything but. Once you have a minute to yourself, (I know mamas, when the heck is that?) think about what got you down; did you have a disagreement with a loved one? One of those rough days at work? Your dishwasher broke? It can even be simpler, some days you're just burnt out and in a funk. Whatever it is, it is important to always acknowledge those emotions. Those feelings are valid and just like we teach our children, you're allowed to be angry and upset, to cry and yell into that pillow Those human emotions are real, and it is important that we work through them, as we teach our children to do.

In order to get though those feelings, you must first recognize them. It doesn't matter whether you can control the situation or not, if you know what put you in that bad space, you are more than capable of figuring out how to get out of it.

Take a minute to breathe. Create a distance between you and the cause.

Go grab yourself your favorite, overpriced, coffee. Go to the mall or even draw yourself a bath with a glass of wine, whatever you need to do, to breathe and focus on something else, even if just for a moment.

While you focus on your breathing, take the time to count those blessing babe! Look at what you have, that is worth celebrating, take mental note of all the wonderful things in your life that we oftentimes forget about.Bad things happen to good people, all the time, but you also have an astronomical amount of incredible, amazing moments to be thankful for. On those bad days, remember all you have to be grateful for and remember, it's just a bad moment, and those bad moments won't last forever!

Once you have cooled down, celebrated your blessings, you're now ready, and hopefully levelheaded enough, to handle what happened. Resolution time.

Do you need to call your dad and talk through the email you need to write to your employer? Should you write out a text to apologize for someone you snapped at, or even give them a call? Do you need to call your insurance company and finish out a claim? In the case where you can deal with it, don't waste anymore time worrying about it. Assess your situation and figure out what you can do to resolve it. It can be hard at times, to admit that you're responsible for the bad things that have happened to you, but that's a huge part of being a "grown-up.". You'll be a million times better off, by addressing what is happening and finding a solution. The sooner you put all that nonsense behind you, the better.

If it is something not within your control, and there's nothing you can do to turn it around, the best thing you can do is accept it and forgive the world at large. Sometimes bad things happen and it's just not in your cards to get it right. Something my Poppi used to always say is

"you're depressed, I'm depressed, we're all depressed. Get the hell over it." 

And basically, yeah! Sometimes we have terrible moments and go through bad days, but it's those terrible moments and times, that make you better, more resilient, more crisis ready. Sometimes it takes looking at things from another perspective, to figure out how to bounce back.

You'll be alright babe, promise!!

When you are faced with those inevitable bad days, remember to acknowledge the situation, take time to cool off, and resolve it, like the capable boss you are.

Bounce back babe and don't sweat the small stuff!

XO,

Kelleen