I am SO happy for you...

Life is beautiful. 

Life is also difficult, chaotic, and oftentimes unpredictable. 

We have all been through our fair share of heartbreaks and betrayals, trauma and pain; we are all warriors in life. 

It is not an easy journey going day to day, but what a worthwhile journey it is.

I am proud of you.

There are so many wonderful people in my life, well-read and beautiful both internally and aesthetically, but I'll be damned if they too, haven't been to places and seen things. Life hasn't always been easy, for any of us, but you know those people, that regardless of the trenches they are working through; even the darkest room brightens when they enter; those people deserve the most amount of happiness and the most joy. 

Have you ever shared joy for your people and seen their light dim when sharing about how a jealous and/or nasty comment was made in regards to something great and positive taking place in their life? Regardless of the circumstance, why must people in our life, be unhappy and even envious about our triumphs. I can't be the only person who has friends and even family members, that have celebrated similar triumphs and found reasons to celebrate and live happily, but find myself stuck in their jealous and unhappy response when it comes to my own celebrations. 

If only, said friends, could be happy for us. That they could find happiness within themselves, because I am happy. Because I am celebrating.

We live in such a competitive world. 

We live in a media-driven world. 

We live in a world that wants us to believe, that we are not enough the way we are, and that we are flawed and need extensive fixing. There isn’t a day that goes by without us being bombarded by countless messages telling us what a wonderful and perfect life lies just a teeny tiny bit ahead of us; if only we could have, do, or take up, whatever it is needed, to be there.

I believe that envy and jealousy are byproducts of those deceiving lies. And although they are not the goal of what the media and corporations want us to believe about ourselves, they are a welcome byproduct of that messaging. Envy and jealousy make us unhappy, and unhappiness is the breeding ground for our need for stuff. Shit. Crap. Because we are meant to believe that we can cure unhappiness with things. And when we see others obtaining items that we think we need in order to be happy, our envy and jealousy are there to remind us of what we are lacking.

But with awareness and practice, you can learn to see through this veil of misleading beliefs and become genuinely happy for others. And once you do that, a new level of happiness emerges for you, too. And guess what? It all starts with loving yourself first.

Looking back at my own life, I know I’ve had many moments where I was envious or jealous, comparing and wishing I could have the life, body, or adventure of someone else. For a period of time, I tried to achieve the unattainable and I was miserable. Those moments were amongst the most misleading of my life. When I think back on how I felt, what I remember is sad. In most cases, I was depressed, stressed, anxious, frustrated, or even, scared. And I definitely didn’t love myself. And it’s only when I changed from within – when I started to love myself, my body, my mind, my soul, and my life – that I was able to be happy for the fortune and blessings of others. And thanks to that shift, I became happier myself.

Because when I started doing that, showing more love and compassion for the person who I was, I noticed I wasn’t that envious or jealous of others anymore. And once I was happy for them, more amazing things started happening for me. And that’s no surprise.

It is my conviction that what we send out into the world, and the thoughts that we have over and over again, materialize into this world. No exceptions.

On a level of energy, thought can be positive or negative, and depending on what we send out via our thinking, that is what we attract back into our lives. Fundamentally, that’s all there is: either you send out and receive positive and uplifting energy, or you send out and gain negative and depressing energy.

When you are jealous, you are tapping into and sending out, negative energy. And by definition, that is what you get back. But that’s not all. When you’re jealous or envious, you’re creating the negative energy within yourself – in your mind through negative thinking, and in your body by producing emotions to fit your thoughts. And by doing that, you push self-love away. When you think of it that way, what it means is that, when you’re having negative thoughts or feelings towards someone else, you’re really having them towards yourself. 

When you are genuinely happy for the success, achievements, blessings, and lives of others, you are creating that positive energy within yourself, too, bringing more self-love into your life. And to live a happy and fulfilling life, that is what you must aim to do, always.

You're amazing. You're perfect. And life wouldn't be the same without you!

Love you!

XO, Kelleen